Women’s Safety Tips – How to Repel Instead of Attract Attackers

by Kelly Rudolph on March 27, 2009 · 6 comments

Tip #1 – Make Noise

Most women are less than eager to get trained in self-defense but we all need some tips on simple ways to avoid becoming a victim and repel instead of attract attackers. Fortunately, sometimes the simplest things work the best.

Attackers prefer victims go quietly so no one notices what is going on and gets a description of them resulting in their arrest. Now that we know what they are looking for, we can be the opposite. Here are a couple things to note:

1. Nine out of ten people gasp and hold their breath when startled or scared so attackers have the advantage already

2. Making noise startles the attacker (turnabout is fair play) and calls attention to your situation

When you gasp and hold your breath, the adrenaline that is automatically produced to deal with stress freezes you quicker and longer, and that’s when the majority of people get hurt. Adrenaline is produced to give you the fight or flight option. It helps you think clearly, run faster and strike harder under stress. In order for it to circulate and help instead of hinder you, you must be breathing. This is where making noise comes in…

Yelling is a great way to make noise and get your adrenaline circulating at the same time because you expel all the air in your lungs and automatically take another breath. Viola! Circulation, adrenaline, strength, speed, clear thought, a startled attacker and everyone looking your direction! Notice I said, “yelling” and not “screaming?” That is because screaming is weak and defensive and yelling is strong and offensive. The three best things to yell: Stop, 911, Back Off!

Other great ways to make noise:

  1. Honking your horn
  2. Sounding your vehicle alarm
  3. Throwing or knocking over something loud (like metal)

Honking your horn is probably not what comes to mind first when you are startled unless you are startled by another driver, right? But just think about how much attention a honked horn gets…and that is the idea after all; even if it is about your personal safety and not about your car.

We know that most people hate the sound of vehicle alarms and rarely even consider that something is being broken into or stolen but again, think how many people are alerted by the sound. You can be sleeping at night with your vehicle in the garage or driveway and sound your alarm if an intruder breaks in.

You know the movies where someone is running from a bad guy through the kitchen of a restaurant, knocking over metal tables and shelves behind them? Not only does this make an instant obstacle course but it makes a heck of a lot of noise in the process. Maybe you are in a store and rake your arm down a shelf pulling products onto the floor to make noise and draw attention.

There is nothing safe or heroic about going quietly with an attacker in the hopes he or she will not hurt you. In fact, it can easily cost you your life. If someone wants to take you against your will, their intention is to hurt you.

Teach your kids this safety tip too. I can’t tell you how difficult it is to get some children to practice yelling in my Safe Kids Class! They have been programmed that yelling gets them in trouble and they need to know it can get them out of trouble as well.

Remember attackers want quiet, uninterrupted time with their victim and the longer you are with them, the more power they have. Make a lot of noise and be more trouble than you’re worth.

And ALWAYS trust your gut feelings to know what to do because sometimes submission is the best option. A good question to ask yourself is, “How is the best way to handle this situation?” Your brain will answer whatever you ask it. Make sure and ask good, empowering questions to get the same kind of answers.

About the Author: Kelly Rudolph – “Your Personal Safety Trainer” – survived rape and domestic violence, and then trained extensively in self-defense to become a Certified Self-Defense Instructor. She has appeared on national TV with John Walsh of “America’s Most Wanted,” written four books on personal safety and has won numerous awards and recognition for her work with SURVIVE! (a self-defense program she created). If you want to learn how to be safer, grab a sample Safety Quick Tip and get some other cool bonuses, please visit Kelly at http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com.

[Editor’s Comments: Kelly gives the following bonus tip: “Some things we’re taught not to do, like being loud, are the very things attackers take advantage of.”

Did you ever think about that before? I know I sure didn’t! But you better believe I’m going to share this advice with my family tonight!

I have a wife and five kids (including 2 young girls), and I often worry about their safety. There are so many things we strive to teach them, like right vs. wrong, proper manners, grades matter, etc. Basic safety and survival skills are typically not near the top of that list.

But can you think of something more important than the safety and well-being of your family?

My oldest daughter, Haley, has been taking Kempo classes for just over a year. She currently has her orange belt, and has plans to continue her training until she’s a black belt. I plan to do a little research and find out what else we can do as a family to improve our safety and survival skills. Kelly’s website, http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com is the first place I’ll start.

If you have any other ideas for me, or just want to share an experience you had, please click the Comments box and share your thoughts.]

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Melanie March 27, 2009 at 2:05 pm

I like this article. Now if something like this ever happens I hope I can remember what to do.

2 Pete March 28, 2009 at 7:33 pm

I hope so too!!!

3 Michele March 29, 2009 at 4:34 pm

This is a great article. I have never been in this situation and think I know what I would do, but like Kelly said, most of us hold are breath thinking of what to do.
I now will hold my alarm button on my key ring when I am walking to my car. I have been thinking about taking a self defense class and I am now going to look into actually doing it and this article is a great start! Thank you!

4 Suzie March 30, 2009 at 3:11 pm

These are great tips! I am one of those people who panic (or cry) first, and then deal with the situation. I react better when I’ve thought about a situation in advance and have a plan.

Thank you, Kelly and Healthy Minute, for giving me a plan! Though of course, I hope I never have to use it.

5 Sweet Pea March 31, 2009 at 9:40 am

I run long distance and unfortunately just like in the movies and on television their a predators out there. I always carry my cell phone, some pepper spray, and a knife. I don’t listen to music because I want to be fully aware of my surroundings. Still I have had wackos approach me and when yelling didn’t work I ran as fast as I could and didn’t look back. A running buddy and myself were chased by a few men once. So even though yelling hasn’t always worked I think it is good to start off with and taking self defense and martial arts would definately be a plus! Thanks for the great advice!

6 Kelly Rudolph March 31, 2009 at 12:46 pm

Thank you for all of your great comments about this article! As you learn more about the characteristics of an attacker and confident body language from my upcoming articles on this site, you will have more peace of mind and confidence.

Here’s a hint: attackers are cowards who are attracted by fear and repelled by confidence.
Be Safe!
Kelly Rudolph, “Your Personal Safety Trainer”

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